People can become victims of crimes, diseases, or of bullish behaviour, yet they do have to act like a victim. Taking on the victim role is rooted in the belief that solutions lie outside of ourselves. In the case of a bullied person, the victim often feels the problem is only solved when the bully changes or is taken to task. However, if bullies suddenly changed their mean ways, we would not be presented with opportunities to become stronger. Because of bullies and adversities, we can learn to be assertive, resilient, confident, and trusting in our self worth. Aggressors rarely disappear at the first hint of disapproval, especially when we play the victim role.
True confidence is not a result of being recognized or valued by others. Being acknowledged for who you are or admired by others is wonderful, yet it is not a source of viable confidence. When we are secure enough to allow others to see our authentic selves, the good with the bad, then true confidence is ours.
Movement is magic for kids’ brains and their emotional state. When children are stationary for too long, their body chemistry diminishes their ability to regulate themselves. Unregulated leads to an increase in kids stress behaviours. Stress behaviour is different from misbehaviour. Misbehaviours are more intentional, agenda driven, and self serving. Stress behaviours on the other hand, are reactions to being tired, nutritionally drained, and in general, the child is over stimulated.
