Children are our privilege not our legacy. Directing our children to live a life that fulfills our desires and diminishes our fears, is a recipe for growing resentments.  We can however, aim to inspire them with our philosophy and lead them with our positive life choices, while still respecting that they are unique individuals. Having kids abide by our rules while they reside with us, can be partnered with respecting their unique perspectives, desires and expression in life. 


Our kids will see life through their own lens, and  are happiest if they are allowed to follow their hearts, passion, and individual beliefs. Wise parents resist molding their children into mini versions of themselves, rather, they encourage independent thinking and authentic expression of self, realizing that this path enhances potential greatness and inner peace.

Namaste,

Instructor Chris

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